Saturday, October 24, 2009

The Joy Diet - Risk

The Joy Diet
Martha Beck


Every Day, Do at least one frightening thing that contributes to the fulfillment of your desires.

I can say that at this time in my life, I really do not need to do one frightening thing a day…. Maybe one a week is ok. In one sense I am a very conservative person and most people would say that I am not a risk taker… I am a safe person; I am not daring in the sky-diving, cliff-climbing, drive fast or reckless sense of the word. But if you look at some of the things that I have done in my life, they are daring or risky in another sense.
Most days, when I was growing up, just living in my house was frightening. At 17 I went to Manhattan for a college course for high school students… when I later attended Parson School of Design, also in Manhattan, I lived in Astoria, Queens and commuted on the subway. Back then it was what I needed to do because I wanted Parsons so much. Later, when I went back and really looked at the place where I lived, I could not believe it. I must have made my Mother and boyfriend (who is now my husband) so nervous during those years… but I was following my dream.
My husband and I went through 6 years of infertility and then adopted two beautiful children….Six years ago we packed up everything and moved 3000 miles to start over…Three years ago I was given the diagnosis of breast cancer… I chose every treatment that would reduce my risk of reoccurrence.

So when I read this chapter… I understood what Martha was saying, but right now I am not in “survival” mode. For once in my life I can stop and just enjoy each day. For me, I have to practice just enjoying each day… Many of us who have a lot of turmoil or risk in our lives do not really know what to do when it is not there. It is a new normal that we have to get used to. I know many of you reading this may not understand… but I also know there are many of you out there who are shaking their heads in agreement. I have been working hard on the “you are not in survival mode”… but I also know if I am called upon my survival instincts will kick in and I will put up my dukes and fight.

I did move one step closer to one of my professional desires this week… I am not sure if it was risk taking or I just had to set my mind to do it. There is a store locally that I think my artwork would fit in well with. I had the requirements for new artists for awhile but I had just not sent in any samples. So this week I sent in some samples… I will let you know when I hear back from the shop…

This is an older collage that I am using as my vision card this week….


Beverley Baird said...

I absolutely love your collage! That says it so well for me!
I agree about the risks - risking only when we ned to - not every day - at least at our stage of our lives!

Lisa @sacred circle said...

What a beautiful collage... May I venture to say that your courage and determination to live outside of survival mode is in itself an enormous risk? It's beautiful that you can trust the universe enough to keep living, keep moving forward, with such bravery tucked away in you heart! Moment to moment, day to day!

Sherry said...

I'm with you on this Mary Beth ... I've risked a lot already. I'm not in survival mode either -- I'm into living fully and completely and enjoying every moment. I still risk and dare myself and challenge myself but I don't need to do it once a day -- I also chose once a week. Heavens, even once a month would be enough. Life is risky as it is!

Best of everything with putting your art into that shop...I'm thinking they'll love what you do!!

Lexington said...

Thank you for sharing your perspective on the risk chapter. It is really great to see how you have been able to make risks work for you in the past. I also really learned a lot from your section on what happens after risk/turmoil subsides. Wishing you another joyful week.

Paula - Buenos Aires said...

I agree on things looking different on perspective. Things we did that didn´t sound risky then or even to us that seem risky now or to others.
Good for you living your life to the fullest ecah day! :D

Kathryn Costa said...

I have to say I find the Joy diet regime a bit rigorous. I'm not sure how realistic it is for us to fit in everything in the diet into our daily routine. I tend to play it safe in many ways -- I drive slowly and follow the rules of the road, I would never ride a motorcycle, bungie jump, or rock climb but when it comes to following my dreams I've been known to hold back and not ask for help. There are some risks that I know I can take that for some may not even seem risky but for me are a stretch -- a good healthy stretch. Congratulations on all of your accomplishments. I think there is definitely a time to rest and savor where we have come and a time for stretching and moving in new directions. Have a lovely week and enjoy the treats in the next chapter!

Nadya said...

It is funny, looking back on things we thought were 'normal'/ OK at the time, & wondering 'what was I thinking?' or 'how did I do that/live there' etc!
I also find myself following this 'diet' in bits & pieces, as feel appopriate - & living in joy, as I can!!
Good luck with placing the art - that sounds exciting, & your process similar to some of mine.


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